"My son, preserve sound judgment and discernment, do not let them out of your sight; they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck. Then you will go on your way in safety, and your foot will not stumble." Proverbs 3:21-23 (NIV)
According to Common Sense Media's latest poll (click here), parents are clueless. What else is new?
In addition to not knowing what our kids are texting, we are also ignorant about what they are doing online. We think we know, because we have filters and passwords, but we don't know. They are sharing personal information, setting up social network accounts under false identities, illegally downloading files, and hacking into each other's accounts. And less than half the parents are aware they are doing it.
This is a good reminder to talk to your teens about the importance of integrity online. Many kids do not realize the potential consequences of posting things online. Once something is online, it may be difficult or impossible to delete it. It's also important to get teens thinking about the reliability of what they are seeing and reading on the internet. Help them learn to be discerning and wise.
Encourage your kids to be a positive force online, to shine some light in the darkness. Brainstorm ways for them to show love to others, such as leaving encouraging comments on Facebook pages. And when others spew hatred and make vile comments, help them respond in love.
It's also good to remember that our parents didn't know everything we were doing either. Pray and ask God to reveal anything you need to know about your child. He loves our children even more than we do, and "He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of men's hearts." (1 Corinthians 4:5)
Finally, give your teens the opportunity to prove themselves responsible. Spy less, talk more.
Praying for you and your children,
Lisa
