Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Should parents read kids' text messages?

Saying this makes me feel old, but it's relevant, so I'll chance it.   My parents had it so much easier.  I had basically three ways to communicate with my friends: talking in person, writing a note or letter, or talking on the phone.  There was only one phone in the house, which was attached to the wall on a limited cord, so privacy was at a minimum.  Still, I often found the need to climb into the hall closet to talk to my friends.  

Our kids have a host of ways to foster private communication.  First it was AIM, then MySpace, now texting.  All great ways to communicate, but equally dangerous.  The question is: how much privacy is too much?   With all the publicity about "sexting", should we be monitoring our kids' text messages?  Is there even a right answer?

For parents, it's a matter of privacy vs. safety.  Teens generally view it as a matter of control and/or lack of trust.  

Let's talk about it.  Parents, do you think it's OK to sneak a peek at your child's text messages? Kids, what do you say?